Posts tagged ‘religion’

Has the ‘NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE’ rule gone out the window because of the power sex has in modern society? And has it affected those who still believe in the rule causing them to marry for the wrong reasons? AKA I DO……WANT TO HAVE SEX.

“No sex ‘til marriage” is the most common phrase I have heard over my 21 years on this earth. It is preached by every religion and almost all parents, some religions take it more seriously than others

We are all famailiar with the rules, but in the 21st century it is clear that it has flown through the window and got hit by a bus. It seems as if it never existed in the first place. Teen Pregnancy, children born out wed-lock, and children by multiple partners. These, amongst other things, have become a normal way of life, it seems that sex has over powered society making the NSTM rule null and void. Sex has become very causal and doesn’t always have to involve love, while marriage has become more and more unpopular. In 2008 the number of registered marriages in England and Wales was 232,990 this, according to National Statistics Online, is the lowest numbers of marriages since 1895. They also stated that the number of unmarried adults rose in 2008. Is this because there is no longer a need for marriage.

Fair enough in the 1800s marriage was mostly for profit, but nowadays the profit part of marriage is gone in most cultures. In some cultures the arrange marriage is still alive and active, and they are the cultures who have the lowest divorce rate.

In our culture has sex completely replaced the act of marriage? Or is the idea of post martial sex only for one gender only. I was born of the Christian faith and because I was born female the no sex before marriage rule had been pushed onto me from birth. I’m sure many other girls as well have had the “talk” with their parents. In Jamaica, ( the country of my family origin) pre-martial sex in largely forbidden in many family because of our strict Christian back ground. Many would argue that the pre martial rule is only aimed at girls. This can be seen in the Islamic culture, a woman can not have sex until she is married. The fact that sexuality and sex is so freely open in most western cultures might mean that marriage is not needed but is only around for those who are still interested in it.

The other issue is the fact that some people who still believe in  no premartial sex, will be forced into marriage because of the pressure that sex has over many of us. A few days ago I was watching a programme on channel 4 called The One Year Itch, which looked at married couples one year into their marriages. One of the couples were an 18 and 19 year old, who were very religious  but most of their story was main about sex and how they wanted to do it.

It is clear that sex is always going to be part of our lives and the more we give into it, the more that it will take us over and we will no long have a need for marriage. It’s sad, but true.


Abortions: Right, Wrong or Is it Just the Woman’s Choice?

It is no secret that the UK has one of the highest rates of teen pregnancy in the whole of Europe.  With the rise

Abortion: Could you do it?

of teen pregnancy there is also the rise in abortions. Although this may be the case, abortion and pregnancy stretches to the older women in the Britain (unbelievably). The National Statistics of 2008 recorded the total number of abortions in England and Wales to be 195,296 compared to 2007’s 198,499 with the standardised age for this rate to be 18.2 per 1,000 resident woman aged 15-44.  This is compared to 2007’s 18.6 per 1,000 people.

While researching for this blog I found some interesting facts about abortion in the UK, such as the highest rate of abortion for both 2008 and 2007 is 36 per 1000, for women aged 19. While those under 16 are 4.2 and under 18 are 18.9.  No doubt the newspapers have reported that Britain’s abortion figures are the worst in the whole of the EU.

For years there have been conflicting thoughts about abortions, whether it’s right or wrong for women to have an abortion. Religious groups have always made it their business to voice their opinions about the subject. They question whether or not it is morally right to terminate a pregnancy before normal childbirth.  Religious groups believe that the issue encompasses the profound issues of life and death.

There is also the issue of the rights of the unborn child, the UK Abortion Law of 1967 states that an abortion can be preformed up the 24 weeks. This leads to many thoughts of whether or not the foetus is alive during this period.  Many argue that if the foetus is not a person then there is no right for abortions to come under scrutiny.

Among many of the issues abortion opens, the reason for a woman to have an abortion is one of the main issues. Many would say that an abortion is the right choice if having a baby endangers the life of the mother. Others would argue of that it is the woman’s choice what she does with her body.  Along with mother’s rights, there are also the rights of the father, over the years many fathers have tried to prevent their partners from terminating their children but so far they have all failed.  Armin A. Brott, who has been dubbed SuperDad, famously quoted, “A woman can legally deprive a man of his right to become a parent or force him to become on against his will.”

Despise the issues that have surrounded and will always surround the topic of abortion it all really comes down to its infamous keyword. Morality; whether or not the foetus is alive from the time of the egg is fertilized in the womb. Should the father have a say about the issue? Can a woman live with herself after having an abortion? Surely some can, seen as the abortion figures of the UK are so high, but you can’t jump to conclusion about this issue. Maybe it is a woman’s choice, if anyone came up to me and asked me, would I have an abortion. I would be lying if I said no.  With all my morals and my Christian upbringing, it still wouldn’t stop me from hesitating when asked the dreaded question. If I were to get pregnant (god forbid) right now, having an abortion would cross my mind, whether or not I would go through with it… that would be another

issue but I can honestly say that it would be the hardest decision I would ever have to make.